In the thick of depression, it can seem like nothing could possibly ease or soothe or lighten the feeling of a ton of bricks weighing on your body, your mind, even your heart. The usual methods like working out, journaling, even “riding it out” may not be enough to pull you out from under it, and probably the last thing you want to do is show this raw and vulnerable side to someone. In your most vulnerable state it is not easy to talk to someone about your depression. But I ask that you please, please do.
Depression takes form in different ways, as mentioned in this blog post. Some of the most prominent symptoms that I experience during episodes are low energy/fatigue, irritability, and feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. With such symptoms, it can be quite difficult, and painful, sharing what you are going through with someone. It may bring up a sense of fear, shame, and/or isolation, but find the right trustworthy people who care about you and you will see that they wish happiness, security, and relief for you more than anything.
Still, it takes immense faith and courage to open up. Here’s why I ask that you push yourself to do so.
A non-profit for mental health, ReachOut USA shared that by talking to someone you are able to sort through your feelings, put things in perspective, and release tension–all of which can help alleviate some of your symptoms of depression. I especially love their note on determining some needed information before talking to someone and who that person should be. While I believe in the power of those reasons alone, one of my biggest reasons for asking you to talk to someone about your depression? It’s that nothing has taken the place of simply knowing that someone genuinely cared enough to hear me. This defied those resilient thoughts of worthlessness and hopelessness that really weigh your spirit down during the darkest times.
From the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, more than 18 million adults in America will be affected by depression in a given year. A quick search will tell you that women experience depression at a much higher rate than men. The more we talk about it, the more we will spread awareness around depression. We can expose the prevalence and slowly but surely lift the stigma, making it less scary to speak up and find help.
What’s more is that in opening up during depression, we give our people the opportunity to hear us and love us when we need it the most. The more we talk about our tough experiences to those we trust and those who care for us, the more support we will feel. The less bricks we will have to carry.